tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2232710396034060966.post2323382175314387250..comments2010-03-28T19:11:59.098-04:00Comments on Ruth Mary Celeste: What If?Celestehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00160726379458664436noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2232710396034060966.post-85127624277957302742009-11-19T08:39:21.722-05:002009-11-19T08:39:21.722-05:00Sorry for your losses, all around, Ray. I'm gl...Sorry for your losses, all around, Ray. I'm glad you have communication with your sister. Also, I hope she extends compassion and kindness to her patients who may face the situation your mother did, years ago. I'm sorry she doesn't give that to your mother. I'm sure that would be much appreciated. I guess that's what jumps out at me ... I sure hope she uses her good life to extend compassion to others. Take care, Ray. I'm sorry you got less and she got more. Keep me posted as the years go by. Best, CelesteCelestehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00160726379458664436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2232710396034060966.post-6766614048366883662009-11-19T06:20:57.982-05:002009-11-19T06:20:57.982-05:00Celeste you just reposted this blog on Face Book t...Celeste you just reposted this blog on Face Book today. Adoption just doesn't affect the birth mother and the child but also the children that result afterwards. At the age of 16, I learned that I had a younger sibling, a sister, who was given up for adoption. From that moment on, I grieved a horrendous loss and consistently looked into the eyes of each stranger I met seeking her. It created a huge wedge between my Mother and me. In many silent ways, it still does. My Mother was in her 30's, had a successful career and had me...when my sister came along. She was of sound mind but chose for my sister to have a better life (as she saw it). Later when I found my sister, indeed she had a much better life. She was adopted by a wealthy family and had a stay-at-home Mom. She went to ivy league schools and is now a successful physician on the East Coast. I have often wondered..."What if it had been me that Mom had given up?" My sister wants nothing to do with my Mother and my mother is hurt that my sister corresponds with me occasionally. It's a very difficult and sensitive situation. The adoptees may get a better life, but the price on one side (or both) is always great. I carry the burden of my Mother's choice daily. It is a heavy burden to bare. Thank you for the post. <br /><br />RayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2232710396034060966.post-91277753841055140392009-01-27T07:36:00.000-05:002009-01-27T07:36:00.000-05:00You're welcome, dear Robin .... Love, CelesteYou're welcome, dear Robin .... Love, CelesteAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2232710396034060966.post-66815458011204443062009-01-27T06:00:00.000-05:002009-01-27T06:00:00.000-05:00Ah, Celeste. You do get to the broken heart of the...Ah, Celeste. You do get to the broken heart of the matter. Thank you for this post.<BR/><BR/>Love,<BR/>RobinRobinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2232710396034060966.post-68657787038820359872009-01-25T12:02:00.000-05:002009-01-25T12:02:00.000-05:00Lynn, I am so sorry you and your mother lost your ...Lynn, I am so sorry you and your mother lost your son/her grandson to the lies of adoption. Yes, I hope he will, someday, have the opportunity to hear your stories. <BR/><BR/>The lies in adoption are horrid and lasting. I believe, in decades to come, this abomination in our society will come to light and be as reprehensible as other sins against humanity. I have said it before and I will say it, again: Adopting is woman's inhumanity to woman.<BR/><BR/>Please, do write to me ... cbsongs@aol.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2232710396034060966.post-78232904102590248652009-01-25T09:42:00.000-05:002009-01-25T09:42:00.000-05:00I'm glad I found your blog. It's an encouragement ...I'm glad I found your blog. It's an encouragement to me that you are so understanding of what we went through as (n,f,b)moms. I'm hoping and praying that some day my son and I will be able to talk about it. If my mom and I had had any clue as to the pain that we would cause my son by placing him for adoption, it would never have happened. We both believed the lies, that he would be better off with someone who had "more" to give to him. She believed the lies that it would be better for me too, and that I could go "back to my life as if it never happened". She only wanted what she was told was best for the both of us, even though it tore her own heart out.<BR/><BR/>I hope you will be posting more.Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16442658768090408909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2232710396034060966.post-53418653386592372852009-01-19T13:02:00.000-05:002009-01-19T13:02:00.000-05:00John, will see to it very soon ... thanks, Celeste...John, will see to it very soon ... thanks, CelesteAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2232710396034060966.post-12407765076241003402009-01-19T11:42:00.000-05:002009-01-19T11:42:00.000-05:00Looking forward to your next post, Celeste.Looking forward to your next post, Celeste.John Ettorrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18229971392235689875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2232710396034060966.post-21269400160976379522009-01-17T09:09:00.000-05:002009-01-17T09:09:00.000-05:00Thank you, Cheerio ... I really think it is uncons...Thank you, Cheerio ... I really think it is unconscionable for family. physicians, clergy, adoption workers, etc., to force emoms (great word - thanks!) to surrender their babies, when they want to keep them. <BR/><BR/>The second sin is when adoptive mothers, in open adoptions, cut off all contact and refuse to share info with the natural mother, as promised. The very least they should do is send updates and pictures. <BR/><BR/>Yes, Cheerio, I sure hope you get to reunite with your son, someday. I hope he listens and really hears your story about how/why you made the decision to surrender him. Most of all, I am so very sorry if you had not one strong, stable person in your life who promised to help you and your son, or someone in authority who offered to help you through the rough times. I welcome hearing your story ... please email me ... cbsongs@aol.com<BR/>Best, CelesteCelestehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00160726379458664436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2232710396034060966.post-67715102900491173012009-01-16T22:36:00.000-05:002009-01-16T22:36:00.000-05:00As I read your description about the tactics again...As I read your description about the tactics against and pressure put on an Expectant Mom facing an unplanned pregnancy ... I sat perfectly still ... the world around me seemed to stop as my mind jumped back in time, and the voice in my heart was silently whispering, "yes, yes, yes, that's what happened to me."<BR/>and I'm sitting here crying.<BR/>I know this comment is 'later' than the rest, but I just found your blog.<BR/>I can't even tell you how much it moved me to read your opening thought - that you recognized that women never get over losing her baby to adoption. <BR/>You are an adoptee yourself.<BR/>I hope my son will someday forgive me and realize the truth that I did not want to let go of him, but I felt I HAD to for his sake...<BR/><BR/>thank you for being open-minded and realizing what happens to e-moms, without drippig w/ anger and hatred...<BR/><BR/>cheerioCheerio!https://www.blogger.com/profile/00709663898726245342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2232710396034060966.post-36884114152515963102008-10-09T18:38:00.000-04:002008-10-09T18:38:00.000-04:00Thank you, Sandy ... let's tell the world our trut...Thank you, Sandy ... let's tell the world our truth!!<BR/>Blessings, CelesteAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2232710396034060966.post-13176908996651421822008-10-09T18:24:00.000-04:002008-10-09T18:24:00.000-04:00Celeste, Beautiful! Bravo!SandyCeleste, <BR/>Beautiful! Bravo!<BR/>SandyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17088288948654864117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2232710396034060966.post-21763284408451635572008-09-11T05:53:00.000-04:002008-09-11T05:53:00.000-04:00Thank you, Kitta! Best, CelestePlease email me at ...Thank you, Kitta! <BR/>Best, Celeste<BR/>Please email me at cbsongs@aol.comCelestehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00160726379458664436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2232710396034060966.post-85317372804630955412008-09-10T23:43:00.000-04:002008-09-10T23:43:00.000-04:00For thousands of years,the human family has been a...For thousands of years,the human family has been a tribal family.People lived in clans and related social groups. The natural biological family has been the cornerstone of society.<BR/><BR/>In the 20th century, social utopians and 'progressives" have worked to change that.Researchers have experimented with "new (improved)forms and definitions of family."<BR/><BR/>Government social workers became empowered to intrude into families and to take children from their mothers and fathers.Adoption promoters expected us to tell ourselves and our children that we loved them so much that we wanted them raised by strangers, and that this arrangement was/is better for them and for society.<BR/><BR/>Heritage either matters or it doesn't. If it doesn't matter for adopted people, then it doesn't matter for anyone.There is no reason to preserve anyone's particular heritage nor family connections....if it doesn't matter for each and every individual person.<BR/><BR/>We have become a nation that televises the struggles of women to become pregnant and give birth.We speak of mother love and bonding.A the same time, we degrade the birth process of single mothers and we deny their connection to their children, as if it didn't exist.<BR/>Either these bonds exist, or they don't.<BR/><BR/>We have to decide as a nation which it will be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2232710396034060966.post-37754397335141130172008-08-10T16:48:00.000-04:002008-08-10T16:48:00.000-04:00Kristy ... you're welcome ... please email me ...c...Kristy ... you're welcome ... please email me ...<BR/>cbsongs@aol.comCelestehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00160726379458664436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2232710396034060966.post-52425319684303111812008-08-10T16:43:00.000-04:002008-08-10T16:43:00.000-04:00Thank you...Hugs,KristyThank you...<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>KristyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com